Gentleness, adequate lubrication :: and anal relaxation are required for anal sex! If condoms are used for penile penetration, which is advisable to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted disease, it is important to use water based anal lubricant. The man should control his thrusting, so as to give the partner time to allow their sphincter to relax. This will become easier with time and practice. Some anal lubricants contain a desensitizer to make the anal play more comfortable. Since the anal region is not self lubricating, anal lubricants are very helpful for making anal penetration more comfortable and more pleasurable. Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, somebody does it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's possible to enjoy anal sex. However, some people may never like it. If your lover is one of those people, respect their views. Don't force the idea upon them!
In spite of the fact :: that anal sex is considered to be dirty, unnatural and even forbidden in some religions, many people prefer this type of sex, because we need diversity in everything. However on account of its peculiarities anal sex is the most traumatic one. There are methods with the help of which you can reduce negative consequences and get maximum pleasure. In order to avoid sphincter rupture, be careful and use special anal lubricants. Use anal lubricants during sex with partner or when you use sex toys. There are three main types of lubricants: oil, water, and silicone based lubricants. If you want to massage your partner, use oil based lubricants. But, such lubes are not for sex toys experiments, because oils can erode latex or silicon. As physicians recommend making anal sex only with condom, such type of lubricants does not suit.
Water based lubricants are :: the most multipurpose. They don't erode condoms and materials, vibrators are made of. The only disadvantage of such anal lubricants is quick dryout and probably you will have to apply lubricant once more during sex. Silicone lubricants do not dry up and do not erode condoms and other latex wares. Don't use silicone anal lubricant playing with silicone sex toys. Anal lubricants may be edible and flavored. The best lube for anal sex is lubricants with antiseptic. The first experience of anal penetration is better to get alone with the help of fingers or sex toys. Be careful, inserting anal toys: painful sensations mean that it's better to stop.