Gentleness, adequate lubrication :: and anal relaxation are required for anal sex! If condoms are used for penile penetration, which is advisable to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted disease, it is important to use water based anal lubricant. The man should control his thrusting, so as to give the partner time to allow their sphincter to relax. This will become easier with time and practice. Some anal lubricants contain a desensitizer to make the anal play more comfortable. Since the anal region is not self lubricating, anal lubricants are very helpful for making anal penetration more comfortable and more pleasurable. Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, somebody does it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's possible to enjoy anal sex. However, some people may never like it. If your lover is one of those people, respect their views. Don't force the idea upon them!
Speaking about bondage :: and fetish, let's first consider these two notions separately. There are many various kinds of fetishes. It depends on the object being fetishized. Inanimate fetishes come in three varieties - animate, media and form. Media fetishes include latex, rubber, leather and silk. With a form fetish, it's the shape of the object with great significance. Knee-high boots and lingerie fall into this category. Such body parts as feet, hair, butts, breasts, and all that good stuff are also considered fetishes, but as these objects are human, they are called animate fetishes. People can turn anything into a fetish. There are different degrees of fetishism - from mild to extreme bondage. Bondage and fetish are inseparable notions.
It is very important :: to use water based lubricant with the anal beads, because the anus does not lubricate itself like the vagina does. This could cause irritation and discomfort. It could also ruin the material on the anal beads. Don't even try to make your own anal beads, so called home made anal toys. The anal beads made by adult toy manufacturers have to be of high quality, designed for their specific purpose. In order to clean your anal beads, use a sex toy cleaner or antibacterial soap and water. Lather it good, especially the nylon string. Let them dry before putting them away. Being properly cleaned, anal beads will provide you with years of hygienic anal pleasure! Vibrating anal beads are a step up from the standard anal beads. They are designed to have the vibrations reverberate throughout the material.