Before inserting :: you have to be sure you are turned on. Watch adult movie or read some erotic books. Help each other! Some people like to have an orgasm before heading for the back door to ensure their whole body is relaxed and blood rushes to the genitals, which can make the anus more sensitive. Gently caress the anus. Massage the anal area. Don't hurry up! Take your time and insert the first bead. Stop for a moment and let your body adjust to the sensation. Insert the beads very slowly, allowing yourself to savor the sensation. There's no hurry to insert the entire set of beads. The toy can feel just as nice when used partway, or just the first couple of anal beads. Take breath. Even if you are trembling from the pleasure of the beads, don't hold your breath. Breathing deeply draws much needed oxygen through your body, which helps to relax your muscles even further. Gently, pull the beads straight out.
Dildo harnesses are a great method :: of taking dildo play to a new level and of exploring sexual possibilities. But if it is your first time, here are some tips on how to use a dildo harness. Find the right position for the harness and make sure the size adjustments are most comfortable for you. You should always use a condom on dildos in harnesses. Using condoms is also a great way to make clean up easier, and to extend the life of your dildo. When you use a dildo harness you won't have the same immediate feedback because you can't feel the shaft of the dildo and so you won't know exactly what is going on with your partner. You need to pay more attention to your partner and don't forget to ask him/her about sensations. One of the main advantages of using a dildo harness is that it leaves other body parts free for use. So you may stoke your partner!
Oil-based lubricants :: tend to stain fabrics and can be difficult to wash off. But such lubes are safe for use during sex. Oil-based lubricants also destroy latex, so you should never use with condoms, diaphragms or other types of contraceptives. Oil-based lubricants are great for those who prefer anal sex or masturbation. Oil-based lubricants, such as petroleum jelly, though inexpensive, are difficult to remove from the body after use. They are not water soluble and require soap and water to clean it up. Despite these facts, oil-based lubricants are the most commonly used kind of lubrication.