You can choose between :: two ways of stimulating the prostate yourself. The first way is external - through perineum between testicles and anus. The second way is internal - through your anus. It could be quite difficult if you aren't lithe. Usually, the best position is when you are lying on your back, the knees are bended, foots are on the bed or they are pressed to your breast. In such position you can insert lubricated finger in your anus, bend it and find by feeling the prostate. Remember that fingernails should be cut shortly. In the depth of the prostate, about 3-5 cm, you will feel a small walnut sized lump on the front side of the rectum. Rub it carefully back and forth. You can also insert it and take out with different rhythm. Such movements stimulate highly sensitive nerves in anus region. If you don't want deep penetration you can stimulate only anal sphincter or perineum, it stimulates the prostate indirect. Such stimulation is much more intensive and deep. In such case it is harder to control the degree of arousal than during the stimulation of genitals. So don't hurry. Instead of the finger you can use prostate massager. It is more comfortable. Besides, all additional settings of such massagers bring real pleasure.
Clitoral pumps :: are made for women who prefer a little pressure on their clitoris. These pumps imitate the feeling of sucking on women clit, and it is up to you whether you like it to be a gentle suck or a harder one. Clitoral pumps can be remote control or used with a hand pump bulb. The remote control ones may be better for eager clitoral pump users, and the hand pump bulb toys would be better for beginners. The reason is in the following: with the hand bulb, you can control the amount of suction you are creating easier, which in the end is safer. Too much suction can hurt blood veins and may lead to injury. This may be an extreme situation, and as long as you are careful, and do not pump more than what proves to be comfortable, you are safe. Clitoral sex toys are very arousing and perfect for women during solo self satisfaction.
Latex condoms are made weak :: by oil-based lubricants such as skin Vaseline, cream, massage oil, hair gel and creams. Since the genitals are very sensitive, it is not recommend to use oil-based lubricants. It's a bad idea to use that on the genitals. The thing about oil-based lubricant is that they can be very hard to wash out. It may take a long time and a lot of water and soap. The one thing, though, that is very important to know about oil-based lubricants is that they destroy anything that contains latex. And that is condoms, latex dental dams that are used for oral sex on women. If you need gloves for penetrating with your fingers and using safer sex methods, diaphragms and latex sex toys, all don't do well with oil-based lubricants. It is better for solo sex when you do not need to use safer sex methods.