You can choose between :: two ways of stimulating the prostate yourself. The first way is external - through perineum between testicles and anus. The second way is internal - through your anus. It could be quite difficult if you aren't lithe. Usually, the best position is when you are lying on your back, the knees are bended, foots are on the bed or they are pressed to your breast. In such position you can insert lubricated finger in your anus, bend it and find by feeling the prostate. Remember that fingernails should be cut shortly. In the depth of the prostate, about 3-5 cm, you will feel a small walnut sized lump on the front side of the rectum. Rub it carefully back and forth. You can also insert it and take out with different rhythm. Such movements stimulate highly sensitive nerves in anus region. If you don't want deep penetration you can stimulate only anal sphincter or perineum, it stimulates the prostate indirect. Such stimulation is much more intensive and deep. In such case it is harder to control the degree of arousal than during the stimulation of genitals. So don't hurry. Instead of the finger you can use prostate massager. It is more comfortable. Besides, all additional settings of such massagers bring real pleasure.
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Helium beads :: To avoid painful feelings there are such anal toys as helium beads for anal sex. Firstly, smooth long tip with little beads is inserted. It widens anus and relieves tension, then more thick beads are inserted. It is much easier to insert them. Another variety of anal toys for beginners is anal vibrator. Small models are made of soft and smooth latex, and have size of 10cm long and 2cm diameter. Thickened form prevents from deep penetration into anal orifice and serves as the element of manual control. Sex toys for anal sex are easily defined according to their wide bottom. Due to this fact, not the whole anal toy penetrates anal orifice.