You should not use :: douche and enema if your partner suffers from inflammatory diseases in rectum or large intestine, piles. Don't use self made, non standard or defective douche and enema. Nothing but pure water should be injected. Even recommended decoctions and solutions may have unpredictable physiological influence. If you would like to enhance cleansing effect of douche and enema, add a teaspoon of baby soap solution, or 1-2 tablespoon of glycerin. Don't use hot or cold water. If during the procedure your partner complaints about pain stop any manipulations with douche and enema.
Before inserting :: you have to be sure you are turned on. Watch adult movie or read some erotic books. Help each other! Some people like to have an orgasm before heading for the back door to ensure their whole body is relaxed and blood rushes to the genitals, which can make the anus more sensitive. Gently caress the anus. Massage the anal area. Don't hurry up! Take your time and insert the first bead. Stop for a moment and let your body adjust to the sensation. Insert the beads very slowly, allowing yourself to savor the sensation. There's no hurry to insert the entire set of beads. The toy can feel just as nice when used partway, or just the first couple of anal beads. Take breath. Even if you are trembling from the pleasure of the beads, don't hold your breath. Breathing deeply draws much needed oxygen through your body, which helps to relax your muscles even further. Gently, pull the beads straight out.
The only lubricant you can :: use with latex condoms is water-based lubricant. Oil-based lubricants have oil in them that reacts with latex. Knowing ingredients is important to determine if you will have a bad reaction to a water based lubricant. There three types of ingredients people are most likely to react to: Preservatives and antiseptics. These are the ingredients which long names end with -parabens. People can and do react to these, and increased exposure to them increases the allergic reaction. Paraben-free water based lubricants include: Probe, Hathor Aphrodisia Glycerin. Many educated sex stores tell their customers who are prone to yeast infections to avoid lubricants with glycerin. While research hasn't been done on this yet, glycerin, is very sweet, and that sweetness could feed the yeast that is naturally occurring in a healthy vaginal canal. Glycerin-free water based lubricants include: Liquid Silk , Maximus.