Gentleness, adequate lubrication :: and anal relaxation are required for anal sex! If condoms are used for penile penetration, which is advisable to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted disease, it is important to use water based anal lubricant. The man should control his thrusting, so as to give the partner time to allow their sphincter to relax. This will become easier with time and practice. Some anal lubricants contain a desensitizer to make the anal play more comfortable. Since the anal region is not self lubricating, anal lubricants are very helpful for making anal penetration more comfortable and more pleasurable. Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, somebody does it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's possible to enjoy anal sex. However, some people may never like it. If your lover is one of those people, respect their views. Don't force the idea upon them!
Up until the early :: 1990s, many psychiatrists believed that bondage and fetish activities were pathological, although now they are regarded as common sexual practice among certain groups of people who prefer tough stuff. Recently, bondage and fetish have become more popular with the appearing of bondage gatherings, bondage and fetish parties. Such festivities are growing in popularity because of bondage and fetish gatherings. People bring whips, paddles, canes, nipple clamps, handcuffs to act out their fantasies with their partner in front of a small crowd. These fetish parties can be perfect fun! Paddles and whips are all designed to help you and your partner step over the pain to feel real pleasure. Of course your actions have to be discussed beforehand in order not to cause pain to each other.
Latex condoms are made weak :: by oil-based lubricants such as skin Vaseline, cream, massage oil, hair gel and creams. Since the genitals are very sensitive, it is not recommend to use oil-based lubricants. It's a bad idea to use that on the genitals. The thing about oil-based lubricant is that they can be very hard to wash out. It may take a long time and a lot of water and soap. The one thing, though, that is very important to know about oil-based lubricants is that they destroy anything that contains latex. And that is condoms, latex dental dams that are used for oral sex on women. If you need gloves for penetrating with your fingers and using safer sex methods, diaphragms and latex sex toys, all don't do well with oil-based lubricants. It is better for solo sex when you do not need to use safer sex methods.