Oil-based lubricants :: tend to stain fabrics and can be difficult to wash off. But such lubes are safe for use during sex. Oil-based lubricants also destroy latex, so you should never use with condoms, diaphragms or other types of contraceptives. Oil-based lubricants are great for those who prefer anal sex or masturbation. Oil-based lubricants, such as petroleum jelly, though inexpensive, are difficult to remove from the body after use. They are not water soluble and require soap and water to clean it up. Despite these facts, oil-based lubricants are the most commonly used kind of lubrication.
There is a great variety :: of discreet sex toys. There are vibrators, look like cute toys shaped as a pretty animal or a flower. One can find a vibe made in the form of a rabbit, penguin, ducky or even a wormy. Also you can find small and discreet vibrators shaped as stuff that can be found in a usual handbag. For example it can be a vibe in the form of a usual mobile phone. Such vibe has plenty of advantages. First of all it looks like a simple cellular that can be found in any pocket or bag. No one will realize that this is a sex toy with which your please your most sensitive zones of your body. In spite of small size, discreet vibrator is very powerful. You will be surprised by the intensity of vibrations delivered by this sex toy!
Gentleness, adequate lubrication :: and anal relaxation are required for anal sex! If condoms are used for penile penetration, which is advisable to reduce the risk of sexually transmitted disease, it is important to use water based anal lubricant. The man should control his thrusting, so as to give the partner time to allow their sphincter to relax. This will become easier with time and practice. Some anal lubricants contain a desensitizer to make the anal play more comfortable. Since the anal region is not self lubricating, anal lubricants are very helpful for making anal penetration more comfortable and more pleasurable. Anal sex should not hurt. If it hurts, somebody does it wrong. With enough lubricant and enough patience, it's possible to enjoy anal sex. However, some people may never like it. If your lover is one of those people, respect their views. Don't force the idea upon them!